I am an Asian Male[ 21 ]. I don’t have any problem finding a date. However, the women I attract tend to expect me to be … very stereotypical? Only kindly asking for a bit of advice to maybe help me avoid this and perhaps broaden my dating pool.

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Hi r/ dating_advice! The mods of r/ relationships sent me here instead. Just looking for some friendly advice.

The title sums up my situation pretty well, but I guess to give some more details, I’ll set them here.

Like stated, I’m an Asian guy( South Korean ). I know a lot of Asian guys say that no women like them, and that they have too much difficulty procuring a date with anyone. My problem is … not really that. It’s sort of different. I’m a good appearing guy, in shape, well kept hair, I keep my style up to date and dress up every day, tattoos, etc.

I attract a lot of women. The problem is, they all want me to act like a stereotypical Asian man. And it truly REALLY hurts me when they express letdown when I show them that I don’t live like that.

My family is caucasian because I was adopted, and I grew up south of Chicago. I don’t hate Asian cultures, but I don’t know much about any of those cultures , nor do I have a huge interest in them. Ever since I moved down South( Tennessee ), I’ve “ve noticed that” my problem has get worse. Now, half the women here have ZERO interest in Asian humen, and the other half are wayyyy to into Asian humen for the stereotypical reasons.

The last daughter I went on a date with got into my vehicle and seemed so confused when I played some music. It was a sung on a playlist that was Kendrick Lamar. She seemed so worried and actually told,

“Wow, I only didn’t think you would listen to American rap. I’m astonished you know who Kendrick Lamar is haha.”

Like, she actually said that to me. Then she asked if she could play something. I told sure because I don’t mind it when other people play different music in my vehicle, and then she proceeded to play Got7( a Kpop group ), and then asked why I wasn’t singing along with her. Why? It’s because I don’t listen to Kpop.

Another girl I went on a date with about a year ago called it quits with me when she found out I was adopted. She said that she was hoping I’d found a family that built traditional Korean food and celebrated Korean traditions and that she only didn’t think she could be compatible with a guy who “acted white.” These scenarios have happened a little under a dozen times, but I can’t only list them all. All of the girls have been different ethnicities, different dressing styles, different backgrounds, etc. So I have little to no way of knowing how things will pan out in the short run until they basically uncover themselves to be whom they truly are.

I know that there are women who like Asian guys just for who they are and not really because of a culture. I only want to get some input on how I would go about procuring some of those people more consistently? I don’t think there’s anything wrong for liking a guy for his culture. You’re entitled to like whatever you want. I would just like to avoid that, though.

I would love to hear your input/ suggestions! And thanks ahead of hour for any of the responses!

tl ;d r: Most of the women I attract want me to be very submerged in Asian culture, even though I am not. I would like advice on finding a larger dating pond where I might find more women that would not have this as a factor in their preferences.

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