tl ;d r I’m struggling to find a partner and men seem put off by my professional success
I satisfied my husband on my first day at university. We became a couple almost right away and got married during our third year. I know in retrospect that was a bit rushed.
When we left uni, me and my friend set up our own tech business. My spouse wasn’t very supportive and turned away the opportunity to invest, he thought we were making an expensive mistake.
Our business was very successful. It made a good income for me, and allowed me and my husband to live in a nice house and go on nice vacations. We were happy for a while and he seemed happy in his chore.
2 years ago a tech giant bought our business for $35 m, inducing me and my friend milllionaires overnight. She and I were the sole owneds so we took 50/50 each, and we stayed in place running the business.
My husband became very cold and sexually uninterested in me soon after this. He seemed to resent the fact that I was able to move us into a really nice house, and I didn’t care whether he contributed or not but it seemed to bother him. Soon after that I received he was cheating on me and we divorced.
Since then I’ve had a few short term relationships/ flings but I’m struggling to find a long term partner. Men seem intimidated or outright put off by the fact I am wealthy. I patently don’t mention this on dating profiles or anything, but more than one guy has cooled on the relationship after used to identify where I live.
I never thought this would be a problem in modern times but it honestly seems like men are just somehow put over by successful girls. Am I just looking in the wrong place? Should I tell them I’m a company director and millionaire on like the first date? It frankly seems to set guys off.
Sorry I know this sounds like such a bitchy first world problem. Waaa waa poor me! But any advice would be appreciated!
Edit: I should say, though I voice confident and bitchy( and a bit braggy) on here, I’m not really like that. I’m a computer programmer – geeky, shy and a little bit socially akward. I don’t find it easy to’ chat up’ guys. And most of my circle of friends are in relationships. Which is why I’m using match.com
I’m not looking to date someone wealthy. I just want to a partner for whom my financial positions is completely irrelevant.