Your friend’s relationship is not yours and the Bible specifically tells us that we should not comparison ourselves to others, so we should also not be comparing our relationship to others. For those of you who are now single … you may be asking yourself what is it that you are doing wrong or whats wrong with you because there must be a reason why you are still single, right? Well good news! There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
Is being single a bad thing? Does it mean that you arent lovable, that you are doing something wrong , nobody wants you, etc? Why doesnt person want me or prefer me ??
He is your father and you are His daughter/ son. He selected you before you were even bears. I dont know if there is a better feeling than knowing that my heavenly father chose ME!
When I take time to truly remember that I feel so honored because as a child I was never chosen. So please know that you have already been chosen by the best man out there who loves you unconditionally. I had to look at it as this route Sometimes I want to so badly be with person and I want to have that significant other in my life. I see it as in this life God is like my earthly father in a sense and when a guy wants to be a part of my life and take me out he asks him questions and pushings him about why he wants to be with me and if my father doesnt suppose I am ready or feels like he isnt a good fit for me then he says no not yet because he wants the best for me.
He is filtering through all of these guys so that if one day I do fulfill my future spouse it will be amazing because it is on Gods timing and not my own. So dont resolve, wait on Gods timing because it will be awesome when you do. He is writing your love story and you just have totrust him and let him write it for you. He is the author of your life.
In my life I have always been single. Not once have I ever been in a relationship. Sure I would always go on a lot of first dates but I always thought that I was never good enough because it would never go anywhere after the first date. I quickly began to feel as though I was unlovable and that nobody would ever want me.
I wasnt sure what was wrong with me. All I ever wanted was to be wanted and I have those relationship aims. I was always told by people that I was a beautiful girl and so on So it would hurt me when people would tell me this and then they would say how surprised they were to find out that I wasnt in a relationship and question me about why I didnt have that special person. I would then always keep asking myself … what is the reasoning behind me being single.
I told him that I one day wanted to get married and perhaps have kids, I hankered for all those things just like anybody else does.
As I began to dig deeper into Gods word and learn more about who he was and how much he loved me I began to become content with my singleness. I had to learn things about myself and continue to pursue after God first before I could ever be in a relationship. I had to realize that its not because I am not lovable, unwanted, or there is something wrong with me that I am single
I am so loved that he sent his one and only son to die on the cross for me so that I could have eternal life.
So right now it may not be in Gods plan or timing for you to be in a relationship, but during this time of singleness you should pursue the Lord and continue to be his hands and feet and serving those around you. Be content and enjoy this season of singleness in your life. Do all the the things as a single person that you maybe wont be able to otherwise do if you are in a relationship.
God has amazing things planned for your life and it will be awesome. If you are currently single I promote you to merely operate and try after the Lord hard and continually. It is far better to wait on Gods timing for the person that God has planned for your life rather than going about it your own route and being in a relationship with the wrong person. If you let go and let God then it will happen when it is meant to happen and it will be a very beautifully written tale because it is written by the person who also made you.
A really great friend of mine lately told me that the right person at the wrong time is still the wrong person. So it is my prayer for you that you wait on the Lord for your love story and let him write it for you.