So this is sort of a ranting but I’m looking for general advice. I’m a 31 year old male and have my shit together. Pretty much the last few females I’ve dated in the past year end up hung up on an ex and go back to them fairly early on.
Example: Was simply dating a woman for about a month and “were in” seeing each other very often/ exclusive. Lots of sex and very deep conversations. She would look at me the way literally no other woman I’ve ever been with has( and I’ve had multiples 3-4 year relationships ). I’d catch her admiring me constantly and she would just look at me smiling and we’d stare into each others eyes often. Things were great until her ex apparently apologized to her and wanted her back a few days ago. She simply sent me a long text saying how great I was but she still had impressions for him and she didn’t realize it until he apologized to her a few days before she wanted to end things with me. I had literally been at her place sleeping with her 12 hours before she told me about it. We had had our very first argument/ fight that night over something semi-serious and she was super upset and asking me to forgive her. She clearly didn’t want to lose me then. I did forgive, we had an honest deliberation with each other, and I guessed things were good. Then I get the text about her ex the next evening and she’s going to give it another try with him. And I get it, it’s difficult for me to compete with an ex where reference is dumped her and I’ve merely dated the girl for 3-4 weeks. Plus who wants to play second fiddle anyways
Regardless, dating is just mind boggling these days. I mostly use online dating because I work from home, so I guess the women I fulfill are mostly employing online dating for their rebounding relationships. And I know, I know. I was the rebound guy/ whatever. “It was only a month so get over it”. I know.
It’s just so incredibly tiring. Would be cool to fulfill person that wasn’t hung up on someone who already dumped them once and is just going to do so again. Would like to actually have a chance to progress something naturally
TLDR: Is everyone being hung up on their exs the norm in online dating? Any good way to avoid it?